Dr. Madelyn Fernstrom: Do you need a relationship cleanse?

mental-health

When feeling troubled, paying attention to relationships across the board—whether with partner, boss, co-worker, friend, or family member—can provide important insights for personal emotional wellbeing. After assessing what is truly important, a five-step plan for a “relationship cleanse” can help eliminate negative relationships while nurturing positive ones.

The first step involves being honest with yourself by sorting out which relationships are genuinely uncomfortable, even if the reason isn’t immediately clear. Reflect on what qualities you valued in that person at the start and how the relationship has changed over time, as defining the problem represents the best first step. Next, understand the problem by evaluating your own role in the relationship. While healthy relationships involve some give-and-take that isn’t always perfectly balanced, ask yourself key questions: Have your own needs remained the same? Do you feel you’re putting in too much energy that’s not given back? Do you sense you’re growing in different directions?

If you find some ongoing value in the relationship, establish boundaries by interacting less frequently as an interim step. However, if it’s time to cut the relationship completely, recognize and act on that decision. This can be tough on your own, and many people seek support and guidance from a trusted family member, friend, or professional. After addressing problematic relationships, nurture your valued relationships by dedicating time and energy to those that matter most. The process of examining all relationships and consciously choosing which to maintain and which to release represents an important part of protecting your emotional wellbeing and mental health.


This article is an AI-assisted summary. All facts and figures are drawn from the original report: https://www.ms.now/know-your-value/health-matters-do-you-need-relationship-cleanse-n1004026